Hi all!
It’s been a busy and turbulent time of late, with lots of crazy disruption. I’ve decided to take a break from my usual formats, and instead write another post play review, which I find is always a useful exercise.
With this year having been as insane and up and down and turbulent as it’s been, I’ve done a lot less play, and far fewer reviews following that play.
Here’s hoping this helps turn it around! This review covers a recent scene I did which involved rope bondage, pet play, impact, and weaving different types of dominance and submission throughout to maintain the enjoyment of both parties. I’ve included the usual questions I ask myself as part of the review.
I hope you enjoy it!
What did I do?
It was the first party we’d attended in awhile – 2020 has been pretty crazy, and our local kink people have been very good about not holding gatherings during times of significant potential risk of COVID-19 infection.
At the same time, my pet had been really struggling with not being able to attend kinky parties and engage with kink culture. I’d been a bit burned out by the ongoing stress and acuity of health work, so I hadn’t minded as much (unlike her, I’d missed the lock down due to being essential services) but at the same time, I had somewhat missed the play opportunities provided by kink parties. Extra equipment to use, a touch of exhibitionism… it can go a very long way for me.
We went in and browsed around a bit, saying hi to some people and generally mingling. As always when I had some public play planned, the very first thing I did was scope out the venue and the opportunities presented; where we could play, what we could use, what the equipment provided would allow us to do.
Planning And Negotiation
I had three different kinds of play planned; pet play and training, bondage, and impact. I had a good idea of what I wanted to do, so I went and spoke with my pet to see if my plan would work well for her. Plan though I might, if I didn’t check in to see how my plan fit in with her mood and state tonight, it might not work at all!
“Wait, you want to do pet play, AND bondage, AND impact, all in one night?” she asked disbelievingly. I had a slight moment of pause – was that too much for her?
Then she beamed. “I am SUCH a lucky girl!”
Beneath her cute kitty cat ears, her face was glowing with joy. Yeah, she’d really missed this kind of play as well.
And for me, I’d missed the extra intensity and use of an audience while we played…
“Alright,” I said, rubbing my hands together. I was a little excited now. “Here’s the plan. We do some pet training, over on the floor between those two stations. Then, we transition over to the bondage area beside it, and I’ll tie you up and play with you in front of all these people for a bit…(here I grinned evilly. I hadn’t tested her reactions to exhibitionism yet) and then we’ll have a break.
A little bit after that, I’m going to take you over to the cross and beat the hell out of you with floggers, and if you fall to the ground, I’m going to pin you with my boot… and keep going.
Just so you know.
Any questions? Anything you think might not work for you?”
Her eyes were shining and her lips parted, breathing a little more heavily as I wrapped up the plan.
” That sounds… that sounds really good” she breathed.
“Little pervert.” I said fondly, and kissed her on the forehead. She stuck out her tongue at me, but was too turned on to make a real production out of it.
Negotiating like that is really fun… especially if you already know the other person is really into everything you’ve just mentioned. Now she was anticipating… which meant the scene was already beginning for her.
I made sure I’d booked out the stations in advance, and checked in with the rope guys to make sure they didn’t mind me using the rope/suspension area for floor play. I got a solid thumbs up on that one, and went ahead.
Pet Play And Bondage
First things first – pet training! I helped my pet into her new knee pads and made sure she felt comfortable in her mitts, then led her across the floor to the area I had chosen. My pet shuffled along happily on her hands and knees, already getting into her headspace.
We went through some position training, and I had her attend to my commands to assume various positions, including some that exposed her rather scantily clad chest nicely to the audience. I enjoyed that, and she appeared to as well; “Aren’t you a pretty kitten? Don’t you think everyone watching is likely to appreciate that pretty view?”
Because she’d done so well at that, we then had a bit of a play with toys and a laser pointer, which she loved. I also loved the laser pointer – these are highly recommended for playing with kittens without having to actually move about much. Then after a good space of time, we did some lead training; leading my kitten on a lead and having her follow me.
She’s a very attentive kitten, so that went very smoothly; she anticipated the turns very well and stayed by my right heel the entire time.
We then transitioned into bondage; our first combo pet play/bondage scene in public. Her hands were still in her leather bondage mitts when I led her over to the bondage mats and then began wrapping rope around her wrists.
She coped with that transition very well, and it was an interesting time including the big leather bondage mitts into a single column tie, especially when she wanted to bat at the rope.
I took my time tying her and easing her into that sensual rope space right alongside her kitten space as well. I’ve found that combining pet play with other forms of BDSM is actually really fun – the position training and different flavor of power dynamic makes for a fun, quirky, enjoyable experience.
Slowly sliding that rope across her skin, pushing her away to create space while I tied something behind her back and then forcefully pulling her back in to wrap my arms around her… in no time at all she was in a very submissive rope space. The playful kitten was tamed!
I looked up at the suspension rig above us. I was tempted… but to be honest, I hadn’t practiced lately, and it wouldn’t be wise to put her into partial suspension without some ongoing rope lab, for both her and me first.
So instead, I used my hands to drag her around in the harness a little bit, dazing her even further.
And then, the playful kitten was made very helpless as I included some light S/m play, using a pinwheel and my hands to lightly torture her into a few orgasms, shaking and writhing in my arms – as much as she could while bound, anyway.
After a few orgasms I decided to wrap up this part of the scene – I’d verbally teased her about coming in public in front of people, she had almost gone non-verbal with pleasure, and I felt like a break before our next scene.
Intermission
So after cleaning up, I led her back through the watching crowd, still on her hands and knees, and then after unleashing her, sent her off to bring us both snacks and drinks, adding some service D/s to the mix.
She returned with some tasty drinks and snacks from the table and knelt by the chair while we both enjoyed the food and I petted her – a form of interim aftercare between scenes.
I’ve found that service D/s can add a bit of structure to things between scenes, maintaining a submissive headspace without the person having to come back out and then go back in later on. Less headspace switching.
The ongoing physical contact, aligned with that kind of pet-submissive headspace, also helps. We rested for about 30 minutes or so, chatted with other people for a bit, and generally recovered some energy for our next scene.
Degrading Impact
And then came the impact scene, where I led my pet to the cross, did NOT secure her to it (her knees get very wobbly when she comes, and I wanted her free to get to the floor) and after gradually ramping up, used three different floggers on her for fun and entertaining reactions. Lots of squeaks, squeals, moans and outright screams.
She did slide down the cross and end up on the floor, still shaking with orgasm. So I did as promised, planted a boot on her back, and continued flogging her cute little backside as she writhed on the ground.
It was SO much fun! I always get a heady little high during scenes like that one. Particularly when I know both me and my pet are enjoying the way she writhes on the ground, and that sense of consensual and very perverted degradation. There’s something a bit primal about pinning someone with a boot and flogging them, too… not sure what it is, but damn it’s enjoyable. My pet tells me that “It’s fucking hot” and that’s all that matters.
I can’t count how many orgasms she had at the party. Nor afterwards, when she’d received lots of aftercare, and then I’d taken her home to finish the night with some actual sex – which by that time was very badly needed to top things off.
What worked well?
I was really pleased with how the pet play transitioned well into bondage and other play. The service D/s also worked really well in maintaining different levels of kinky headspace for her as we went.
What didn’t work so well?
Honestly, I was VERY tempted by the partial suspension possibilities. I’m glad I didn’t do it, because we hadn’t done any suspension rope lab first, but I think I really want to do some of that with this pet in the near future.
What did I enjoy most?
At parties, I always enjoy impact a lot… and that particular scene was super fun… but honestly it’s a toss up between that and binding my pet and making her get off in front of people.
What did the other person enjoy most?
She was pretty much blown away by the whole thing! Feedback was very favorable.
What were the outcomes?
Definitely going to schedule some rope lab in the near future!
Lessons learned:
Nothing really new this time – just more reinforcement about how maintaining different levels of D/s interaction throughout a multiple scene night is actually really helpful for both parties in their mindset. This may not be the case with all people, but it definitely seems to be the case for my pet and I.
