Post Play Review: The Second Time I’ve Had To Cut The Rope

And now it’s time for another post play review! 

I’m writing this up literally the day after it happened, and it’s very fresh in my head. This review covers a few different BDSM aspects in one scene – psychological/erotic conditioning, dominance and submission, a bit of degradation, and quite a bit of rope bondage – and a situation where I actually had to cut the rope off in a bit of an emergency. 

Planning And Negotiation 

I was feeling a bit inspired. I’d recently seen a scene in an anime where someone had been tied up and “punished” with some erotic rope bondage, and I’d thoroughly enjoyed it. So I decided it was a great day to use rope for multiple purposes – sensual seduction, restraint, and outright erotic stimulation. 

Why? Because it would be fun.

I had a think about how best to achieve what I wanted. The anime had used a karada or full body harness, and while that had possibilities, once tied, a karada is a fairly static harness. It doesn’t move around very much, and I really wanted to be able to pull on a moving rope and get a strong response. Because that would just be so much hotter!

So I decided to use a diamond chest harness as my base, and add a crotch rope on to that in order to create the effects I wanted. This would allow me to keep the karada aesthetic (which I honestly love) but create the more dynamic effects I wanted for erotic fun times. 

So I prepared the room – I tidied, chose my rope, set my own mood with my favorite BDSM songs, and used my nifty color changing LED lightbulbs to create a nice atmosphere (I HIGHLY recommend you get these – they’re an important part of my stealth dungeon, and they are AMAZING for creating different moods in a room… Interestingly, shades of pink or red tend to work really well for sex and kink settings.)

I negotiated with my pet, and let her know my plan in advance (anticipation is an amazing thing) and discussed that the theme would be predominantly sensual tonight. She had some pretty bad drop recently after a rope practice session, so she was a bit nervous. I spent some time reassuring her, and chose the lingerie she would wear tonight. She’s made me a great “underwear catalogue” which is fantastic for this sort of planning. 

And then we began. 

What We Did 

I had some BDSM music playing when my pet came into the room, and I felt like having a quick dance, so I did. First time I’ve danced with a woman in lingerie! The dance was fun and quick, and because we both love dancing, it helped her with her nervousness by inserting a bit of light hearted fun. 

Then I had her kneel on the futon at the foot of my bed, and told her to place her hands up behind her head, holding her hair up and out of the way – which began sending her into that wonderful submissive mindset. 

My pet looks amazing when she does this, and I love the pose, so I prolonged it, taking my time to run my hands over her and just really enjoy the moment. 

And then I used a cheat move to push her right into that submissive, aroused mindset. 

I’ve recently been deliberately conditioning my pet to become aroused at a certain stimulus. Why? Because it’s extremely convenient and fun, and it’s super hot. We both love that I’m literally changing her brain to respond to certain stimuli, and it’s incredibly useful at times as well. I honestly think telling her that I was doing it made the effect even stronger… 

At the moment, the stimulus is a particular brand of 62% dark chocolate. It has a distinctive taste. 

I broke off a piece, held it in front of her mouth as a tease,  and then, instead of giving it to her, put it into my mouth and thoroughly enjoyed it. I did this about three times, until my mouth was saturated with the taste of this particular chocolate, and then I kissed her. Deeply. 

This is about the point where she completely lost all nervousness – replaced with an immense erotic drive and urge to submit and be a good little toy. 

Conditioning, when negotiated and done well, is wonderfully useful. 

Then I slipped her collar round her neck, and completed her journey into that submissive mindset. 

Now it was time for rope!

I started off by sitting behind her, guiding her hands behind her back, and then taking a “slow, sensual” approach to tying her, sliding the rope over her skin and taking my time to tease her erogenous zones with it as I did. 

This meant the harness took a bit longer to tie, but that’s part of the fun – enjoying the journey to getting tied up. As I mentioned before, I used a diamond chest harness, or a “hishi gote” – all going well, below is a video demonstration on that one. 

Then I added more rope – one that would tighten down the existing harness around the breasts when I pulled on it. I wanted some moving rope which would tighten down on certain areas, creating a more erotic effect, so I made sure not to friction it off as I went, and then played a bit with tightening it. 

The erotic responses to rope tightening around the breasts were AMAZING. I made a mental note to do more of that in the future if I got the opportunity. My pet was all seduced and subbed out by the initial tying of the harness, and was absolutely ripe for stimulation after that. 

I made sure not to friction off, and then I had my pet stand up as I created a crotch rope by extending from the breast line – and enjoyed the noises she made as I used the rope between her legs as a lead. 

Now it was time for more active play!

I led her in front of the mirror, and standing behind her, spent about twenty minutes just revelling in power, degradation, and stimulation, playing with the tension of the rope, tightening it between her legs, around her breasts, alternating tight pressure with looser, and then taking a couple of toys and caressing her skin with them – a spiky toy, and a feather. 

At this point she was super sensitized, and I revelled in using my words to tell her what a delightful little rope puppet she was, such a fun little toy for me to enjoy – look at yourself in that mirror, aren’t you a hot little bondage slut?

I’m not going to lie. The diamond harness was mostly for me. Aesthetic – you just gotta love it! But I think she liked the view as well. 

And my pet made a beautiful little toy, writhing, orgasming, nearly falling down a few times. She did very well to keep her feet. She wasn’t quiet, but wasn’t too loud, either – I don’t think our flatmates were unduly disturbed. 

So much play. So much fun. 

After awhile we moved onto bondage sex on the bed, and I made excellent use of the harness in throwing her around and making her even more helpless as I balanced her on her knees and controlled her weight with my hands hooked into the rope. 

In retrospect – that was probably the part that took her that little bit over the edge.

Because just as we finished – she passed out in the rope. Second time ever that’s happened for me. 

I was like, hmm, this is going to make untying her tricky… and began carefully untying and moving her around… 

And then she woke up, completely disoriented and panicking as she struggled against the rope! The poor girl! 

So I grabbed my rope shears and cut the rope off. 

It had been awhile since I used them, and I was really glad they were still performing well. Snip, snip, snip, snip. The rope came off, and she relaxed, still dazed. 

So I was cuddling her, and enjoying her slow wake up, and then, about ten minutes later, (and I love this part) she picked up a cut off piece of rope and was like “Huh? What? Why is it so short? Rope is long!” 

And it was hilarious. Her expression was so fucking confused and cute! Then when I explained she was like “Ohhhh…. I’m so glad we didn’t use your red rope!” 

Her brain was definitely still rebooting. She had no memory of me cutting the rope off at all. 

We spent a bit more time in cuddling and aftercare mode, enjoyed some chocolate, and I put on some fluffy background anime, and then had a fantastic sleep. 

Today I think we’re both a bit wrecked – it was an intense scene! Definitely having a quiet day once I finish this post. 

What I Really Enjoyed

Actually, all of it. It was one of those scenes where I improvised a few times (I hadn’t practiced the sliding breast tie), and it worked out really well. 

It was also one of those scenes that has a lot of fun and different BDSM elements to it. Psychological conditioning, sensual rope, later “erotic torture rope” with the groin and tightening breast rope, then sensation play mixed with a bit of degradation and almost exhibitionism (I freaking love that mirror). And then finally, intense bondage sex. 

I love combining lots of different elements like that. It’s so much freaking fun. 

Also, having my rope shears in a really easy to access place totally paid off. Rope emergencies are pretty rare, but damn I’m glad I knew exactly where those were. 

What I Learned/What I Would Do Differently. 

I think when you’re suspending part of a person’s weight in rope, even via your hands, it’s pretty much partial suspension, and that intensifies things a lot as well. Small wonder my pet was so overwhelmed. 

In thinking about it, I think I want to use nylon or a slippery synthetic next time I try a combo harness like that with dynamic elements. Cotton has a lot of tooth – which meant the harness tended to tighten a lot more on one breast than the other. The pull just didn’t make it as far across the harness to the other breast as I would have liked – I think I’ll get better results with a more slippery rope. 

Though I’ll need to test if it actually stays on the breasts as well, seeing as how the friction will be lost. 

Rope science, coming up! 

I am ALSO really glad I used cotton rope for that particular scene! I tend to use cotton rope or “easy to clean” rope any time I’m planning bondage going between the legs, and honestly it really paid off. It’s so much cheaper to replace than my red jute would have been. I think nylon and synthetic rope is also easy to clean, so I’m feeling pretty comfortable in using that again in future – and it’ll still be cheaper to replace than jute if necessary.