The “Sleepy Shibari” Tie.

The “sleepy shibari” is a cute little tie that I learned from Wykd Dave, who had a video up a few years back.

The idea behind this “sleepy shibari” tie is that you’ve already been doing a lot of fun things with your partner, and now they’re in this sleepy, relaxed state, and probably lying face down. Being the wonderfully kind Rope Top you are, you’ve decided you can allow them to enjoy that state of rope happiness for just that little while longer… so now it’s time to add yet more rope!

Step One: Form A Shoulder Harness

Picturing your partner being in a nice, relaxed state, lying on their front, we move their arms gently, folding them behind their back, ideally with the inside of the wrists facing each other. We then add a single column tie around those wrists, and draw the rope upwards, towards one shoulder.

Noting that the person is lying down, we’re going to use our left hands to pull the rope down beneath their shoulder from the front.

Reaching with our right hands between their left arm and torso, we’ll grasp the tails of the rope we’ve just smoothly slid beneath their shoulder, and pull those tails up, so that our working end is now moving across the back.

We want to send the rope in the direction of the other shoulder, in order to repeat what we’ve just done, but on the other side.

Once we’ve repeated this, we’ve created a nifty little shoulder harness. Now it’s time to lock our strands together into a neat little friction, ideally moving the rope so that the friction is centered on the middle of the back.

Basically, you just twist your strand of rope around the other strands in such a way that they’re all clasped together. Very simple. Once that’s done, we take the rope out towards one of the arms. Which one doesn’t matter; we basically just follow the direction the rope is going in.

Step 2: Hojo Cuffs

At this stage, we’re going to create a hojo cuff, similarly to how we’ve done in previous tengu tutorials. We’re going to use the working end to add a bit of tension, pulling the cuff away from the arm, and then take our working end beneath the stem to the other arm, where we’ll repeat the process.

The idea behind these is it adds a sense of restriction to the tie. It’s not much, but it’s enough to help keep that yummy rope space going for our partners.

Once we’ve done our cuffs, we bring the rope back to the middle of the back, and now it’s time to finish the whole thing up with another friction.

Basically, what I’m doing here is linking my existing friction to the hojo bands, centering everything and tidying it up, then finishing it with a (hopefully)flat weave around the little bundle I’ve just created.

What kind of friction you make here depends on what you feel like, but basically you just have to bind everything together in a way that’s relatively comfortable for your bottom, and easy to untie.

And finally, because I’ve got a fuckton of rope left over, I’m just tying that bundle to the remaining stem. Mostly because it was late and I was feeling lazy.

I could have done something to add more restriction, done more wraps or hojo cuffs around the forearms or something, but I can always do that another time.

There’s no reason not to use this tie standing, if you want to; it’s not the most restrictive tie, but it’s still fun, simple, and reasonably aesthetic if you like that. My partner was very keen to check it out in the mirror when I tied her.

Again, the principle ideas of this tie came from Wykd Dave; I’m just noting it because it’s a nifty, fun little tie, and I want to keep it around on the Internet for others to use too.

Plus, it’s now easy for me to look up. I can just type “Rope Connections Sleepy Shibari”, and Google will help me out :D.