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Here are my notes on the first Tengu tie variation I learned. It’s not a bad tie, fairly simple once you get it down. I’ll probably be experimenting with different variations of it from time to time, because I’m not quite happy with this one yet.

What’s a Tengu? I think it’s a winged demon, sometimes crow or canine. I think it’s probable the tie is called that because it’s more dignified than “chicken wings”, which is what I’ve called similar ties in the past.

We start, of course, with a single column tie on one wrist.

It’s been awhile since I posted a new tie I like, but I quite enjoy this one. It’s pretty cute, it’s fun to tie, and it gives another option to tie hands behind the back. I only recently learned it, so I’m taking notes and putting it on my website for other people to enjoy. Rookie mistakes included.

This is a variation on a “rifle tie”, or a “teppo shibari” as it’s sometimes known. For most people, this position can be a bit challenging. One of our friends doesn’t like it at all, as she just doesn’t have the flexibility. That said, it’s handy to have options. Sometimes people have shoulder or nerve issues that can get in the way of your more common behind the back ties, so this one can actually be a bit more sustainable. This is not a suspension tie, more a bondage and play tie.

Bondage knots are one of the first things you learn as you start your journey into bondage, kink, and rope bondage in particular. 

And honestly, most people would be surprised at how few bondage knots you’re ever really going to need! 

My new book, The Type A’s Guide To BDSM Scenes, is now up and available for purchase here on Rope Connections.

Good morning everyone!

It seems it’s time for the official notification post. 

I have a new book coming out very soon – and this one solves the problem of how to plan a great scene. Not only that; but how to do it consistently. 

This particular book came about because one of my readers loved what was in my previous book, but wanted more information on how to plan kink scenes in general. 

When I took a look at what was out there, I realized that there was lots of surface level information, but very few deep and detailed walkthroughs on the process of planning a great scene. 

People tend to be told to negotiate, (which is good advice) and “to do what works for you” (which is also good advice) and then they’re sort of left at a loose end when it comes to figuring out what to do, and why to do it. 

Which sucks. There was no detail, no structure, no replicable process. People were being left floundering in the dark. 

So I decided to take a very organized approach in writing a very detailed guide with respect to planning a great kink scene. 

I did a bunch of research, asked a lot of questions, and analyzed the hell out of the planning principles behind some of the best scenes I’ve seen and experienced. 

And then, as I wrote it, I realized that some people would need more information, and the guide got bigger. And then I realized it needed examples and case studies, and the guide got bigger again. 

So now I’ve ended up with another Ebook. 

Thank you to everyone who participated in the polls for the cover design! Your influence has been HUGE, and I really appreciate all the input given. 

Interestingly, in researching and writing this ebook, I’ve indirectly benefited tremendously. 

As I wrote this ebook, I found myself clarifying my own practices and principles when it comes to BDSM, and really reinforcing my own process for creating consistently great scenes. Not only was I writing down the practices I was using, I was expanding on previous ideas and coming up with new ones. 

This book made my own planning process better literally as I wrote it. 

And I’ve had some hot as fuck scenes recently because of that. Do I sound smug? Because I am. 

I also found myself becoming far more confident in planning around different kinds of kink. It turns out that the same process can be used for whatever kind of kink you’re throwing into the scene. So that was fucking cool. My muse and I have been experimenting with some new things quite successfully because of that. 

 I’m going to be keeping a copy of this book on my Kindle for whenever I’m brushing up on my scene planning, because hey; it’s worked damn well for me so far. So from time to time I’ll read back through it and reinforce my process with all those good ideas. 

I’ll be releasing the Ebook to you guys week beginning September 19th, 2022. I’m launching it here first, in the Rope Connections Store, and in a few months I’ll let Amazon have access to it as well. 

I’m excited, guys. I really am. I’m hoping you get a lot of value from it as well 😀

Sometimes, it’s fun to use rope to play with a masochist’s pain kink. And this post describes exactly how you can do it.

Disclaimer; this post depicts masochistic bondage sex, with rope tied more tightly than I’d typically recommend for most scenes. While it’s relatively fun and safe to do with legs tied doubled closed, I don’t recommend it for any other area of the body. Always negotiate how you’ll play with your partner before trying anything like this.