I had an email asking me how people fit kinky scenes into their week when they’re working full time and have a lot going on. Fair enough! I can definitely relate to the difficulties there.
I figured it probably wasn’t just this person who had that problem, so here comes another post with the strategies I’m using at the moment.
I fucking love sensual rope scenes. They are absolutely one of my favorite types of scene to do, and I take great delight in them.
I find that they’re a great way to top someone and be all dominant with hot top energy, without any use of pain. It’s all about the bondage, power, and intimacy.
Recently I got an email asking for more information on how to do a scene like this, so I’m laying out some ideas. It’s not a point by point “do this, then that”, but more a set of principles and ideas that you can use to create your own rope bondage wizardry with whomever you like.
Life comes with inevitable challenges, and so do relationships of all types, kinky and otherwise.
One of the greatest contributors to resilience and creating ongoing enjoyment is quite literally practicing appreciation – and this post tells you how my pet and I are hacking this to improve our kink lives even further.
I’m writing this up literally the day after it happened, and it’s very fresh in my head. This review covers a few different BDSM aspects in one scene – psychological/erotic conditioning, dominance and submission, a bit of degradation, and quite a bit of rope bondage – and a situation where I actually had to cut the rope off in a bit of an emergency.
I recently received this awesome message and it was one of those “fuck yes, way to make my day!” moments.
“Hi mate, I just wanted to say a massive thank you!!!
Long story short (ish), just over a year ago I met a girl who has changed my life and opened my eyes in aaaaaall the best ways. She was already on the scene here and had been for some time whereas I was a total vanilla creature unaware of this incredible world.
She introduced me to the idea of rope and told me that she likes to be tied up. I on the other hand was never even a boy scout and sometimes struggle with my own shoelaces! Anyway, falling head over heels with her and wanting to make her dreams come true, I started the process of researching and learning all things ropey! And the first site I came across was ropeconnections.com. I spent hours reading everything I could on your site and practising the free tutorials you have posted, and discovered “Hey! I’m actually not bad at this AND its REALLY fun!” So I bought and downloaded your e-book “rope bondage the smart way” and it has become my ropey bible. The way you explain things is so clear and easy to follow. I am still learning and working on the confidence to take charge of the situation, (I’m not a natural Dom but I’m getting better!) and do often still have to refer back to tutorials while tying, which she is fine with because we are both learning and having an awesome time.
But anyway, I’m glad I have found you on FL so I can personally say “Thank You” for your work and resources. I hope you keep it up and maybe release another book with some more awesome ideas/tutorials.
Thanks Pete!!
All the way from the UK
Naylass”
I love this. He’s worked hard and continues to work hard, and in doing so is totally encouraging me to keep up my work as well, which I really appreciate.
Today I’m off sick, but recently I’ve been doing a lot of work in researching for upcoming projects.
Research is not NEARLY as fun as creating – it feels like study, honestly, even when researching stuff you love and want to use – but it’s a very necessary step towards building the knowledge base and experience necessary to create new useful things, like books and guides.
So I really appreciated that message, and that he took the trouble to send it to me. That encouragement is freaking great!
I’m going to keep working hard, studying, and learning useful things, and then create more useful guides for all you guys out there as well.
It’s a sad but true fact that having bondage furniture and a good “dungeon set up” can be problematic in most flats and apartments.
Property managers tend to not like it. Flat and apartment owners tend to not like it. Having vanilla people over for social gatherings can be awkward when they stumble across something that looks like it should belong in a dungeon.
That’s okay, because you don’t NEED obvious bondage furniture. There are tons of ways to have a delightfully hot time with a totally stealth dungeon.
Injuries happen, and they can impact on you and your BDSM play tremendously. Sometimes it’s not you – it’s your partner or play partner that gets injured. Here’s how to do BDSM when you have an injury.
Note: All information is my own opinion. Always consult with a medical professional before undertaking activities which may create, prolong or exacerbate injury.
Today I’m reviewing the best app for D/s (dominance and submission) that I’ve found so far.
My pet and I have been testing this for roughly a year, and we’ve both found it really useful in helping to support our D/s dynamic.
I do want to point out that you don’t NEED an app for a D/s dynamic. In fact, I found the very idea of having an app for D/s laughable at first.
Like, what would it do? Punish your submissive for you?
There’s this old trope that “there’s an app for that” in relation to pretty much anything. So one day, a bit over a year ago in good old 2019, I did a search out of sheer curiosity.
Mostly, I found D/s (dominance and submission) dating websites.
But then, I actually did find an app designed to help facilitate D/s. I was curious, and decided to experiment with it within my relationship.
To my surprise, it turned out that it’s actually pretty great. So after extensive discussion with my pet about what we both like about the app, I’ve decided to share our results.
It’s been a busy and turbulent time of late, with lots of crazy disruption. I’ve decided to take a break from my usual formats, and instead write another post play review, which I find is always a useful exercise.
With this year having been as insane and up and down and turbulent as it’s been, I’ve done a lot less play, and far fewer reviews following that play.
Here’s hoping this helps turn it around! This review covers a recent scene I did which involved rope bondage, pet play, impact, and weaving different types of dominance and submission throughout to maintain the enjoyment of both parties. I’ve included the usual questions I ask myself as part of the review.
This is a favorite technique for learning how to connect with your partner and very quickly increase your skill in making rope bondage sensual and connective. It’s amazingly effective and is very simple to apply.
I’m a kinky guy who once upon a time was challenged by his girlfriend to tie her up… and at the time, didn’t have a clue how.
That was six years ago.
A lot has changed since then… to the point where I’m now documenting, sharing information, and showing other people how to do all the things I couldn’t do back then.
I even wrote a book, designed to help everyone who comes here get past all the problems and difficult bits quickly, easily, and a lot more smoothly than I did.
Learning rope bondage in isolation is really, REALLY hard…
So I want to make it easier. For me, and for everyone else!
Try the “Start Here” page first; it makes it easier to find the good stuff!