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Posted on September 7, 2020October 19, 2020 by Pete Riggs — Leave a comment

How To Be A Good Dominant – 6 Useful Principles

“How to be a good dominant” is a question I’ve been asking myself and the world for quite a few years now. This post discusses some of the most useful principles for achieving that goal, and having better, healthier dominance and submission relationships.

When I first started out, there wasn’t a particularly coherent model of “dominance and submission” available. There were snippets. Extremely varied ideas and opinions spread by lots of people, heavily influenced by fiction. I had to try a lot of different things out to see what worked well, and a lot of it didn’t, which led to some epic mistakes.

However, since then, I’ve tested a lot, and researched a lot more, and eventually found a set of principles that can be successfully applied to pretty much any D/s dynamic.

Since I’ve discovered these… the rewards have been unbelievable. Far more than I could have imagined, from the kinky mindblowing sex to the warmth and joy of a consensual power dynamic that exists far outside the bedroom. It’s difficult to list all the rewards, but I’ve added some at the end of the post.

It’s been a hell of a journey learning this stuff, but it’s been worth it. These principles now form the core of my own model of dominance and submission, and I’m hoping that in sharing them with you, I can support your journey as well.

Posted on July 10, 2020August 10, 2020 by Pete Riggs — 3 Comments

The Kinky Relationship Review – Keeping Your Relationship On Track

A kinky relationship review is something I’ve been testing in my relationship for the last several months.

And now, I’m really excited to discuss it, because it’s proven to be incredibly successful. You’ll be able to use this in any kind of relationship, kinky or otherwise, and include whatever kind of dynamic you’re currently in.

Literally everybody already knows that one of the key elements in every relationship is communication. It’s one of the fundamentals.

But just because it’s fundamental, doesn’t mean it’s easy. Many of the relationship problems that come up do so because something, somewhere, has gone wrong with communication!

Kinky relationships (particularly D/s or dominance and submission, or other kinds of power exchange) have some additional factors which can make communication even trickier.

The power exchange can cause people to feel that they can’t communicate the same way… because it might be disrespectful, because it doesn’t suit their role, or because they just don’t quite know how to bring things up without freaking out the other person.

I’ve run into a ton of these kinds of communication problems in the past, as have other people I know, so I made a plan to test out a possible solution – both for myself and my relationships, and to share with others, such as yourself.

Here are all my current notes on the kinky relationship review and how it works, so you can adapt this for yourself.

Posted on June 10, 2020June 17, 2020 by Pete Riggs — 2 Comments

Rope Scenes At Kinky Parties

One of the interesting things about getting involved in kink is accessing a secret little world of other kinksters who are also getting their kink on.

It’s exciting! In your more vanilla groups and settings, people would hardly imagine that kinky people have gatherings, conventions, parties or giant events. Talk about a well kept secret! It makes you feel like a spy. With a secret identity. Attending secret things.

And those parties that are held by kinksters are also exciting. You get to see and interact with other kinksters socially, and sometimes you get to see them play and do their own kinky thing, in front of other people.

And sometimes, you too get to do those kinky things – if you want to. If it excites you. If it gives you that sense of thrill.

I’ve been doing this for a few years, and have really enjoyed it. But when it comes to rope, there is some specific advice that I’d really like to give you, in order to help you have the best chance possible to have an awesome rope bondage scene at a party.

Posted on May 10, 2020July 10, 2020 by Pete Riggs — 4 Comments

Two Kink/Life Pitfalls – And How To Prevent Them

Why hello! You’ve discovered the kink world and now you’re all on fire to tie people up and/or be tied up, and now you’re looking for or have found that special person you’re planning to do it with.

Everything is new and exciting and just, oh my god. Those fantasies that you’ve had for so long are about to come true and it’s going to be amazing. You’re nervous and you can’t wait…

But… hang on a minute.

Turns out there are some potential pitfalls here, which you would much rather not encounter.

In your head, you’d really like to not have those negative experiences, if possible, and move right on into having a good time while minimizing any potential downsides.

Luckily, there’s someone who’s encountered many of those pitfalls before you, and is in a position to point you in the right direction.

Posted on April 10, 2020April 10, 2020 by Pete Riggs — 2 Comments

When you’re feeling nervous about tying someone

It’s a thing. It happens to us all. And there is a very simple, very easy way to make your life a lot easier.

Posted on March 11, 2020September 24, 2020 by Pete Riggs — Leave a comment

Pet Play: A Fun New Sexy Kink

Pet play is a kink I’ve been learning about due to forming a connection with someone who’s quite into it and who identifies as a “pet”. It’s an interesting thing, tying up a cat-girl…

So this has become a great opportunity to learn something new, and to make sense of it by writing it up and sharing it with my readers – including how some rope bondage can combine rather well with pet play.

Posted on February 6, 2020February 6, 2020 by Pete Riggs — 2 Comments

Kinky Relationship Foundation: Respect

I recently got an email from a really worried individual who was trying to get their head around power exchange in kinky relationships, the risks associated with it, and what might happen if people got into one, found it wasn’t for them, and then found their wishes or attempts at communicating or re-negotiating were completely ignored.

This individual was super worried about it, and was looking for some kind of advice and reassurance about what was okay and what wasn’t, and whether people respect each other as people, even in power exchange.

My overall impression was that they were looking for reassurance that respect could exist even when one person was handed lots of power, and the other entered into a submissive role.

The short answer is: yes, it absolutely can. That should be the goal.

The long answer is below.

Posted on January 5, 2020April 7, 2020 by Pete Riggs — 6 Comments

A New Year, A New Direction

Rope Bondage doesn’t happen in a vacuum.

I first got into rope bondage because my partner was into it, and I was determined to be able to do it. It was a connection that was important to me, and I was super keen to pick up that skill, because it would benefit that connection.

Kind of a relationship skill, when you think about it.

Over the last year, I’ve started thinking a lot harder about maintaining healthy kinky connections and relationships. Because rope bondage is one very useful skill that can be used to add to a connection or relationship, or just to enjoy on it’s own, but there are a lot of other factors which are important and useful to look at for maintaining a healthy connection.

Posted on December 4, 2019December 4, 2019 by Pete Riggs — Leave a comment

Just because… a quick picture

A week or three ago, some friends and I spent an afternoon doing a rope photoshoot in a hotel room nearby. It was hilariously good fun, and we got some amazing pictures out of it.

Unfortunately, most of those pictures show a bit too much detail to post… which is incredibly sad, because I’d love to show them off. When a friend of a friend is a hobby photographer, you can get some amazing stuff.

But there are one or two that I can share with you guys 😀

Below is one I took myself. I was experimenting with the “mermaid” tie in a bathtub (Oh my god I wish my bathroom looked like that) and it ended up looking pretty great. My lovely model had always wanted to be a mermaid… she ended up having a fantastic time with this (she’s also currently a red head, and a “little” at times, so it was very “Bondage Ariel” in there for a bit).

Nothing like a rope mermaid tail for funsies.

But the one I’m really pleased to show you is the next one, which was taken by the hobby photographer.

Often, when I’m doing a photoshoot, if someone else is taking the pictures, I’ll tell them when to take a particular shot – usually because I’m putting together a tutorial or something. So I’m busy tying and being mindful of the shot, etc.

This time, I ignored that, and focused on interacting with my model… it was much more of a “rope scene” captured on camera. I put her into dreamy rope spaces, and enjoyed every aspect of the interaction. I’ve had to crop the picture, but I feel like the photographer caught that enjoyment really well, on both sides.

It’s hard to capture moments like this on camera… I really value that photo.

It was an absolutely amazing afternoon, and a great way to spend time with rope friends. Lots of fun tying, appreciating each other’s hotness, and laughing as we took delight in creating very fun pictures.

I highly recommend it as a fun afternoon activity.

Posted on November 9, 2019November 8, 2022 by Pete Riggs — 3 Comments

Cotton Rope And Kinky Dates

In the last week I had a conversation with my friend Dexter about cotton rope, and whether it’s as good as other kinds of rope. He VERY quickly discovered that I have some strong opinions here.

I frequently come across the perception that cotton rope is pretty much a rope for beginners, and other associated derogatory thoughts like that.

“It’s just what you start with.”

“It’s okay until you can buy something better. “

“It’s the cheapest good bondage rope you can get (and therefore not as valuable as other types).”

I’ve been slightly guilty of that thinking myself, to be fair, especially when I was starting out.

But in the last year, I’ve come to realize that cotton rope is actually an invaluable part of my bondage kit, and I wouldn’t be without it.