Healthy Kinky Relationships Archives : Rope Connections

Posted on April 27, 2022April 27, 2022 by Pete Riggs — 4 Comments

What Are Red Flags for Submissives?

Not every submissive or bottom is safe to do BDSM play with. Here’s a list of red flags for submissives, with the goal of promoting safety for Tops and Dominants.

Posted on March 22, 2022March 22, 2022 by Pete Riggs — 1 Comment

How To Be A Good Casual Play Partner

In the realm of healthy kinky relationships, we often end up with “casual play partners” who we really enjoy playing with, but whom we don’t intend to get involved with in a romantic or D/s relationship sense.

This sort of thing often occurs when we’re determined to be single for a while, but still want to enjoy some really nice kinky play with people we enjoy spending time with.

Today’s post explores some of the fun considerations involved in being a good, or better yet great casual play partner.

Posted on November 23, 2021November 23, 2021 by Pete Riggs — Leave a comment

Boundaries In Kinky Relationships

Every now and then, in any relationship, we’ll encounter behaviours that aren’t very good for us.

And this is true for kinky relationships as well. This post discusses some of the behaviours we can encounter, and how we can positively address those behaviours so we can keep living our healthy kinky lives in a good way.

Posted on September 30, 2021September 30, 2021 by Pete Riggs — 1 Comment

How To Make Time For Kink And Sex

I had an email asking me how people fit kinky scenes into their week when they’re working full time and have a lot going on. Fair enough! I can definitely relate to the difficulties there.

I figured it probably wasn’t just this person who had that problem, so here comes another post with the strategies I’m using at the moment.

Posted on June 30, 2021June 30, 2021 by Pete Riggs — 4 Comments

Improving Your Kink Life: Practicing Appreciation

Life comes with inevitable challenges, and so do relationships of all types, kinky and otherwise.

One of the greatest contributors to resilience and creating ongoing enjoyment is quite literally practicing appreciation – and this post tells you how my pet and I are hacking this to improve our kink lives even further.

Posted on February 18, 2021February 23, 2021 by Pete Riggs — Leave a comment

Doing BDSM When You Have An Injury

Injuries happen, and they can impact on you and your BDSM play tremendously. Sometimes it’s not you – it’s your partner or play partner that gets injured. Here’s how to do BDSM when you have an injury.

Note: All information is my own opinion. Always consult with a medical professional before undertaking activities which may create, prolong or exacerbate injury.

Posted on January 12, 2021January 13, 2021 by Pete Riggs — 4 Comments

The Best App For D/s (Dominance and Submission)

Today I’m reviewing the best app for D/s (dominance and submission) that I’ve found so far.

My pet and I have been testing this for roughly a year, and we’ve both found it really useful in helping to support our D/s dynamic.

I do want to point out that you don’t NEED an app for a D/s dynamic. In fact, I found the very idea of having an app for D/s laughable at first.

Like, what would it do? Punish your submissive for you?

There’s this old trope that “there’s an app for that” in relation to pretty much anything. So one day, a bit over a year ago in good old 2019, I did a search out of sheer curiosity.

Mostly, I found D/s (dominance and submission) dating websites.

But then, I actually did find an app designed to help facilitate D/s. I was curious, and decided to experiment with it within my relationship.

To my surprise, it turned out that it’s actually pretty great. So after extensive discussion with my pet about what we both like about the app, I’ve decided to share our results.

Posted on September 7, 2020October 19, 2020 by Pete Riggs — Leave a comment

How To Be A Good Dominant – 6 Useful Principles

“How to be a good dominant” is a question I’ve been asking myself and the world for quite a few years now. This post discusses some of the most useful principles for achieving that goal, and having better, healthier dominance and submission relationships.

When I first started out, there wasn’t a particularly coherent model of “dominance and submission” available. There were snippets. Extremely varied ideas and opinions spread by lots of people, heavily influenced by fiction. I had to try a lot of different things out to see what worked well, and a lot of it didn’t, which led to some epic mistakes.

However, since then, I’ve tested a lot, and researched a lot more, and eventually found a set of principles that can be successfully applied to pretty much any D/s dynamic.

Since I’ve discovered these… the rewards have been unbelievable. Far more than I could have imagined, from the kinky mindblowing sex to the warmth and joy of a consensual power dynamic that exists far outside the bedroom. It’s difficult to list all the rewards, but I’ve added some at the end of the post.

It’s been a hell of a journey learning this stuff, but it’s been worth it. These principles now form the core of my own model of dominance and submission, and I’m hoping that in sharing them with you, I can support your journey as well.

Posted on July 10, 2020August 10, 2020 by Pete Riggs — 3 Comments

The Kinky Relationship Review – Keeping Your Relationship On Track

A kinky relationship review is something I’ve been testing in my relationship for the last several months.

And now, I’m really excited to discuss it, because it’s proven to be incredibly successful. You’ll be able to use this in any kind of relationship, kinky or otherwise, and include whatever kind of dynamic you’re currently in.

Literally everybody already knows that one of the key elements in every relationship is communication. It’s one of the fundamentals.

But just because it’s fundamental, doesn’t mean it’s easy. Many of the relationship problems that come up do so because something, somewhere, has gone wrong with communication!

Kinky relationships (particularly D/s or dominance and submission, or other kinds of power exchange) have some additional factors which can make communication even trickier.

The power exchange can cause people to feel that they can’t communicate the same way… because it might be disrespectful, because it doesn’t suit their role, or because they just don’t quite know how to bring things up without freaking out the other person.

I’ve run into a ton of these kinds of communication problems in the past, as have other people I know, so I made a plan to test out a possible solution – both for myself and my relationships, and to share with others, such as yourself.

Here are all my current notes on the kinky relationship review and how it works, so you can adapt this for yourself.

Posted on May 10, 2020July 10, 2020 by Pete Riggs — 4 Comments

Two Kink/Life Pitfalls – And How To Prevent Them

Why hello! You’ve discovered the kink world and now you’re all on fire to tie people up and/or be tied up, and now you’re looking for or have found that special person you’re planning to do it with.

Everything is new and exciting and just, oh my god. Those fantasies that you’ve had for so long are about to come true and it’s going to be amazing. You’re nervous and you can’t wait…

But… hang on a minute.

Turns out there are some potential pitfalls here, which you would much rather not encounter.

In your head, you’d really like to not have those negative experiences, if possible, and move right on into having a good time while minimizing any potential downsides.

Luckily, there’s someone who’s encountered many of those pitfalls before you, and is in a position to point you in the right direction.