There are sometimes challenges in doing rope bondage that have nothing to do with the participants, and everything to do with the environment that you’re playing in.
This post is actually in response to an email from one of my readers not so long ago; she wanted some ideas about how to incorporate a sexy rope bondage time when you have kids and an active family life.
And I thought, well yes, I can see how that would present some challenges… so let’s have a bit of a look at that. After checking in with some kinky parents I know and asking a few more questions online, I’ve come up with a few hopefully helpful ideas.
Rope Bondage At Home
Rope bondage at home can be a very good thing. It’s the best place to practice, because you know you can arrange some privacy, especially if you do it in the bedroom.
There’s usually a comfortable place to do said rope bondage (e.g. the bed) and you have a great deal of control over the environment.
But… there are often challenges.
Often, these challenges are called children.
Who get up super early, or stay up super late, and want to sneak into your bedroom to borrow your phone to watch Youtube, or who want to jump on the bed and say hi, and tell you about something very important to them, but which is interfering in your opportunity to quiet times.
Or when you put them to bed, and you want to sneak into the bedroom to FINALLY get some of that intimate time, and then one of your kids pops up again. And again, because his brother keeps kicking the bed, or using his toy, or whatever.
Or sometimes, the challenge is taking things from that “every day, normal” vibe from your average home life to “holy fucking shit, this is so freaking hot”, because you’ve been so used to managing the kids and getting domestic chores done around them, that it’s just become really hard to turn off and focus on that intimate time.
How To Enjoy That Good Old Fashioned Bondage Time At Home!
Life with kids can be hard, there’s no two ways about it. I can hear hundreds of parents automatically nodding as they read this.
I find that most parents I’ve spoken to who are happy with their sex lives have ended up proactively creating strategies that allow them to get their sexy fix.
That’s right. They’ve planned that stuff out, thinking two steps ahead to eliminate possible mishaps already. And kinky parents have had to plan even more carefully, because being tied up when your kid comes knocking on the door can be an issue.
- Depending on the situation of the family, these strategies might include
- having a really strict bed time and having your kids well trained to it (this is usually a good idea anyway)
- installing a lock or bolt on the bedroom door so that children literally cannot just open the door and walk in to see Mum or Dad all naked and tied up.
- arranging for their kids to go stay at a relatives or friends house for scenes which may include louder components (loud moaning, loud vibrator buzzing, screaming, etc)
- encouraging their kids to visit that park on the other side of town or go to the pool for the same reason
- arranging an afternoon of annual leave when their kids are in school
- making kinky friends who will be happy to babysit for a few hours so the parents can get their kink on, and trading the favor back later on
and so on.
The good thing about rope is that it’s pretty quiet, generally speaking, which can be extremely advantageous, and it’s also quite light – it’s not difficult to hide relatively quickly as long as the person isn’t all tied up in it. It’s easy to pack into a bag and go take somewhere else, too, if you want to take your bondage elsewhere e.g. to a friend’s play room.
There are also some additional perks to having kids around, it turns out.
Suddenly, you have great excuses to have impromptu bondage frames about the house.
That hard point in the ceiling? “Oh, we installed that for a baby swing for X child a few years ago… it was the only way we could get them to sleep.”
That rather robustly built indoor swing set? “Oh, well, you know, it’s hard to keep the kids occupied when it’s raining outside…”
There’s actually lots that can be done, if you put in sufficient planning and go hunting for ideas – and some of those tips and tricks you can be super smirky about it with your partner(s).
Last but not least, it’s important to make a bit of a production out of your play date, if you want to make sure you’ve got that fun sexy time happening that you’ve been looking forward to.
And this means looking after your environment, and your mind.
You want to have planned things out, and made an agreement with your partner that the two of you are going to get up to some very sexy shenanigans on a very particular day, so that you’re both mentally prepared and creating those essential strategies around it.
You want your bedroom to be tidy, without random piles of clutter or clothing everywhere.
You want to have added in a few sexy touches; maybe a few red candles burning in the background, or a very appropriate Spotify playlist designed just for this, one that the two of you would enjoy.
You want everything you might need to be easily accessible, and to have spent some time pleasurably building anticipation with your partner.
And when it comes to your mind… this needs to be dedicated play time. You don’t want to be thinking about all the domestic stuff during these hours – you want to be totally focused on enjoying your partner and what you’re doing with them!
So take the time.
Fantasize about what you might do during those upcoming days, and communicate some of those ideas with your partner. Build the anticipation for a very fun time, and remember to go light on housework or anything else you might be doing that day, so that you have plenty of energy left over for fun.
It’s all about prioritization, and sometimes, every now and then, for the sake of your sex drive and your relationship, having a date with sex, bondage, and kinky times is more important than daily domestic living.
Hey, I hope you guys found that useful – I think we all need reminders every now and then about how to keep things sexy and make time for that kind of stuff. If anyone has other ideas they’d like to contribute, then please, add them to the comments 🙂
