When you’re feeling nervous about tying someone

It’s a thing. It happens to us all. And there is a very simple, very easy way to make your life a lot easier.

For people who have already purchased my book, this is nothing new. I covered this strategy and a few others in more detail at the end, when guiding people through a plan for their first scene. I want everyone’s first bondage experience to be great, and I’ve done my absolute best to prepare them for that.

But for everyone else, here is my absolute favorite tip for when about to tie someone and you’re feeling nervous.

You might be nervous because…

• You’re new to tying people, and it’s your first time doing it for real.
• The person you’re tying is really, REALLY hot, and you want them to think the best of you.
• You’re worried that they might compare how it looks to how other people do it on the internet, on those oh so perfectly posed pretty photos.
• You might have tied many people, but just not have tied anyone in a few months or years, because any number of reasons. Let’s face it, life happens… we can’t be all bondage, all kink, all the time.

Now is a good time to refer to previous mistakes I have made with rope bondage, because those experiences inform this post.

The most relevant point for this particular tip is that it’s not how your rope looks… it’s how it feels. It’s about the sensory experience of it all. And if you want to relieve a lot of your anxiety, to get the person you’re tying focused on just those sensations, and nothing else…

There’s one very simple solution.

Use a blindfold!

They’ll be incredibly focused on the sensations that you’re giving them. If you need to take a moment or two to think, they won’t know that… for all they know, you’re just taking an extra couple of minutes to build anticipation or to add other sensations.

They won’t see your face. You’ll be free to have your “thinking” face on, and the uncertainty, the not knowing what you’re planning next, will be adding to their experience, making the scene even better.

As long as you sound confident, and feel confident, you’ll be able to take your time, giving them all the sensations, all the tantalizing anticipation… and they really and truly will NOT give a fuck about how it looks.

They’ll be very focused on how it feels, and nothing else.

You’re welcome. Now go have fun!